After my post on divorce a few weeks ago I have been asked what I thought was the reason so many marriages are breaking up. Like with all things these days I attempt to see life through the eyes of love found within my heart. From here this is what I have discovered so far on this matter of marriage and divorce….
Ultimately in life it is what we see that determines how we see it working. Over the years I have heard many say that marriage is like a triangle. I certainly believed this for years as in hindsight sounded good. Yet as I have gone deeper into my heart I have began to see that when this picture is looked at more closely, I believe, it falls short of how God sees it. You see a triangle though it joins three points together they nevertheless remain separated from each other in the sense that something else is required to join them and keep them joined. These pieces or straight lines that are inserted between these three points if pulled upon with any real force will not only disfigure the triangle but in time it will also tear it apart.
This is why I believe today that a better picture of marriage is more like a three stranded cord which is what the Bible uses as a picture to describe the union of three things. You see with the strands even though you have three individual units, God, you, and your spouse you are all part of the same chord which is God. This means that the strands do not require something else to join them as they are bonded and held together in the first place by the same chord. This oneness is such that even when something attempts to pull them apart they actually get bonded together even further as the strands become stronger.
Therefore consider with me today the fact that the triangle works when we see things through the eyes of our mind which sees things in separation and it therefore sees separation (divorce) as an option. The chord on the other hand works when we see things through the eyes of our hearts which sees things in wholeness. I know in my own life today the more I have of my heart available to see the less I consider separation as an option when things are not good. The important thing is that both people need to be able to see things this way and not just one as both doing this will mean loving the other in the same way that you want them to love you.
Remember marriage is about giving and giving as this is what I have discovered keeps the circle of love going.
-pablo-
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